Stories of Loss

Where's the Spirit?

Getting Grief Right

by Patrick O’Malley
The New York Times

All sorrows can be borne if you put them in a story or tell a story about them.
— Isak Dinesen

How do you experience grief? What expectations do you hold for your own grieving process? What might it look like to remove those expectations and surrender to your emotions? In this article, O’Malley explores the healing power of sharing our stories of loss. As he notes, “When loss is a story, there is no right or wrong way to grieve. There is no pressure to move on. There is no shame in intensity or duration. Sadness, regret, confusion, yearning and all the experiences of grief become part of the narrative of love for the one who died.” It is with this shared framework that Still Harbor aims to maximize a sense of safe space, listening, and support for storytelling and healing. We invite you to read more about the design and facilitation of our healing work.

The truth is that grief is a unique as a fingerprint, conforms to no timetable or societal expectation.
— Patrick O'Malley